Hot Sports People with Cute Animals

I have long been an advocate of aesthetically blessed sports people treating us to photos of themselves with super cute small animals and Julian Edelman is latest to indulge us with this treat. 



Clearly this is an opportunity to revist some past favourites, like Gronk with a kitten on his head. 


Or Gronk trying not to have his nose clawed off by a kitten


Or Nathan Baker with puppies 


And of course we can't forget the king of photos with small animals, Zoltan Mesko 









Facial Palsy Awareness Week: Day 7

Other ways facial palsy affects my life:


From a practical point of view, I can't blow up balloons, blow out candles or gargle. I can't blow raspberries and I can't whistle, and I remember being so proud of myself in primary school when Richard Larnders taught me how to whistle properly. 

There are also the psychological effects. Not least because the image of beauty and worth that we are sold by the media includes that beautiful wide dazzling smile, but also because of the looks and comments from other people. 

People regularly crack jokes about Bell's Palsy; search it on social media (not this week because we've filled it with awesomeness) and it's often full of cruel comments. 

People stare; out of curiosity or just rudeness, either way is awful. People actually ask "What is wrong with your face?". People use it to hurt you and tell you nobody is going to want you with a face like that. 

As well as the difficulty in getting treatment, both finding a specialist and getting funding, there is also a general perception about Botox. I have lost count of the number of hurtful comments about me having Botox; about it being vain, about getting old. 

I don't have frown lines because I can't frown and I don't have laughter lines because my eyes don't scrunch when I laugh, nothing to do with Botox and also because I take exceptionally good care of my skin. 

Botox allows me to live my life, to do things other people take for granted. Botox enabled me to run Blenheim Triathlon on my 30th birthday. Botox enabled me to go swimming in a mountain lake in New Hampshire. Botox enables me to leave the house in winter without suffering agonising pain and helped stop most of my migraines. 

Facial Palsy Awareness Week: Make Up Tips

Make up is difficult enough as it is without a wonky face. I was lucky enough to get some make up tips from a couple of experts recently which I thought I would share.

Complexion:

We've all seen the tutorials for contouring which look like a complex jigsaw in varying shades and are quite frankly terrifying. Contouring does not have to be that complicated. A swipe of bronzing powder below the cheekbone can do the trick on it's own. If one cheekbone appears lower than the other, simply swipe the bronzer slightly higher to give the appearance that the cheekbone itself is higher.

You can also add a highlighter on the cheekbone, again adjust the positioning to balance the face.

Eyebrows:

My eyebrows are not only different heights but also arch differently. Start by getting a brow pencil (any will do) and fill in the brows trying to match them up as much as possible, be it lengthening one, adding more of an arch to the other. At this stage it might look odd as you might not be used to filling them in. Once you've pencilled out a shape you're happy with pluck any stray hairs around the edges. Just remember no ones eyebrows will perfectly match :)


You can also use things like highlighters or concealers to give the illusion that the lower brow is sitting higher. Try putting a bit of the highlighter or brightening concealer under the lower brow to bring more light to it.
 
Eye make up:
 
For opening up eyes, highlighting the tear duct area, and using a light coloured eyeliner really help. Curling your eyelashes is also a great way to open up the eye.
 
My eyeshadow never looks even, which is a problem shared by one of the beauty experts I spoke to as one of her eyelid folds seems a little more hooded than the other. If you are going for something subtle something matte will help diffuse light and the lack of eyeshadow on one lid won't be as prominent. For something more dramatic, just make sure you are checking how much eyeshadow is visible with your eyes open looking straight in the mirror. It might be that you bring the eyeshadow higher on one eye which will give the illusion of symmetry.
 
Pinterest is a great place to get tips on identifying eye shape and eye makeup to suit this https://uk.pinterest.com/search/pins/?q=eyeshadow%20shape It might be a case of doing your eye shadow slightly differently on each eye to give the effect that it is the same.

Facial Palsy Awareness Week: Day 6

Eating and drinking with facial palsy:

Eating without dribbling and drinking out of cups is something most people take for granted after about the age of 2, but with facial palsy it's not that easy. 


Incomplete mouth closure can lead to dribbling on the affected side and chewing the inside of your cheek is often a problem. This makes eating in public, particularly in groups, a major issue. Smaller bites help. 

Drinking out of any cups in the acute phase is difficult and straws can help. A few years ago we were having breakfast in a restaurant in Vermont where I was presented with my coffee in a rustic earthenware mug. It soon became apparent that the only thing I was going to achieve by trying to drink out of it would be coffee down my front. Thick rimmed mugs are a no go, as are those bowl shaped coffee cups. I nearly always get my coffee in a to go cup as they are generally easier to drink from. Drinking from bottles is something I still struggle with.

In addition to the practicalities of eating and drinking with loss of mouth control, synkinesis meant that my eye would water badly when I ate. Eating in hotel restaurants alone with everyone thinking you're crying is so much fun! Botox has helped with this but hot food, both in temperature and spice, still makes my eye start running. 

My taste buds were also affected. My favourite takeaway curry suddenly tasted horrible and I discovered I actually liked whiskey. 

Facial Palsy Awareness Week: Day 5

Living with facial pain:

Anybody who knows me knows how much I love football. Unfortunately football is played outside in the winter. After my second episode when I was 21, my face became sensitive to the cold and it got worse after my third episode. Spending any amount of time outside when it was cold caused agonising pain. Sitting outside for 2 hours to watch a game of football was not going to happen.

I was prescribed medication to help with the nerve pain because it was stopping me from sleeping but I could only take them at night as they made me really drowsy. When it was windy was the worst, and made my whole face feel like it had seized up.

When I finally got seen by a specialist, 11 years after I first developed facial palsy, and started a programme of physiotherapy and Botox to help manage the synkenesis and hypertonicity things started to improve. After 3 years of treatment, I only sometimes get facial pain and it's not the agonising pain that it was, and although the cold still makes my face feel tight, I can now sit outside for 2 hours every other week to watch the football - which is mostly a good thing! 


Botox has literally changed my life. 

Facial Palsy Awareness Week: Day 4

Life with unexpected facial expressions:


Synkinesis happens when the recovering nerve reattaches to the wrong muscles. This meant that when I tried to smile my eye would close, when I tried to raise my eyebrows the corner of my mouth would raise and when I ate I would cry.

Luckily with a combination of physiotherapy and Botox over the last 3 years, I have largely managed to control the worst of the synkenesis although when I am due more Botox I can feel it starting to creep back. My platysma, the muscle in the neck, starts to get tight and pulls whenever I try to smile, pout, whistle or say certain sounds. I start to get over activity in my "good" eyebrow which pulls at the opposite corner of my mouth and I get dimples (not the cute kind) in my chin with most mouth movements. Everything just generally starts getting tight and starts pulling. 

Many people don't have access to treatment such as specialist neurophysiotherapy or Botox because of the low number of specialists in the country and having to fight for funding for what is deemed to be cosmetic. 

Facial Palsy Awareness Week: Day 3

Life with a unique smile:


A smile is the universal language of friendship, love, encouragement, happiness and kindness and losing the ability to smile properly makes this simple, but powerful, act of communication difficult. 

Smiling at people in the street, in shops, in bars, draws attention to the fact that your smile is different. Some people stare, some people ask what is wrong with your face, some people are just downright rude.

It becomes easier to try and hide the difference by not smiling at all or limiting it to very small, controlled, close lipped smiles, which in turn makes people thing you are miserable or unfriendly. 

Photos are the worst; constantly being told to smile, when that's the one thing you wish you could do but can't. 

Facial Palsy Awareness Week: Day 2

Life with an eye that doesn't blink:


Asides from winking at everyone all the time, which can get really awkward when they think you're flirting, life with an eye that doesn't blink is a pain in the, well, eye. 

Whenever the weather is windy and cold or hot and bright, a none blinking eye suffers. Wearing glasses helps protect against wind and cold (cold eyeballs hurt) and help stop bits of dust and grit etc. from getting in my eye, which my blink should protect from. Sunglasses pretty much whenever light levels are above gloomy are a must as your eye is open and exposed to UVA/UVB rays basically all the time. 

Because my eye doesn't close completely, simple things like washing my face, washing my hair (especially having it washed at the hairdressers), spraying hairspray, dying my hair (hair dye in your eye hurts like a b**** for hours!), swimming, splashing with water with the kids all became issues. 

In the acute phase of BP, sleeping is fun too; making sure I don't scratch my cornea on your pillow or duvet and being woken up early because open eyes think it's morning sooner. 

As the blink doesn't work to lubricate the eye, dry eye is a real problem and means eye drops and gels just to keep it hydrated. Dry eye hurts, a lot. The FP eye gets tired quicker when driving, using a computer etc.  

At 16, I had perfect vision, good enough for the RAF to consider letting me near the controls of a fighter jet. Now my vision in my FP side is 3 times worse than in my good side. The optician thinks the dehydration, extra exposure to light, the atmosphere and irritants and being used more, because it doesn't get the blink rests, are probably contributory factors. 

Facial Palsy Awareness Week: Day 1

Why and when I developed facial palsy:

was 17 and hadn't felt great all day. Towards the end of the day I found my boss staring at me aghast. The left side of my face had dropped. Everyone thought I was having a stroke. It was Bell's Palsy. I was promised it would be gone in a matter of weeks. It wasn't. 

It happened again when I was 21. Again I was told it would go. It didn't. 

When I was 27 I had a third episode. This time there were no reassurances it'd get better, confusion about why it hadn't gone previously and concern that it had happened again. I had a million tests and scans but nobody could find an explanation.

                   Me, pre-facial palsy 


http://www.facialpalsy.org.uk

Facial Palsy Awareness Week

It's the first ever Facial Palsy Awareness Week from 1-7 March #FPAW. Over the next 7 days you will read 7 statements on here that describe the effects of facial palsy. You will read them and then you can forget them. Those affected by this condition cannot forget, they live with this daily. This condition can hit any one of us, from small babies to the elderly, at any time with no warning. There are no nationally funded trials investigating causes or treatments for facial paralysis. Many people are denied treatment because it is deemed purely 'cosmetic'. I'd like you to read my statements over the next 7 days and decide for yourself whether this condition should simply be disregarded as cosmetic.

Robert Hamill Remembered

For my oral in English Language GCSE, in 1999, we had to prepare a presentation about something that mattered to us. I decided to teach my class about Robert Hamill. It was a story that broke my heart then and has stuck with me every since. Sorting through some old things today I found what I had written, folded safely in a poly pocket with a news clipping from the time with a picture of Robert with his two young sons.

New Hampshire: Up the Notch

Today was another day of exploration. With a couple of stops in mind and the big map we set off up Bear Notch Road. Bear Notch Road is a very steep, winding mountain pass that is closed in winter but offers terrific views from the top of the Mount Washington Valley. It's also a handy shortcut across from Bartlett to The Kanc. 



Once on The Kanc we headed north to North Woodstock, where we had a terrific lunch at the wonderful Woodstock Inn. We stocked up on maple syrup supplies at Fadden's, purveyors of the best maple syrup around and perused the array of Glocks, rifles and crossbows at the gun store, which is up for sale in case anyone wants to buy a gun store in North Woodstock and took a walk down to the Pemigewasset River, which is just beautiful. 


We headed north again up to Franconia Notch, past the Old Man in the Mountain, or at least his mountain, up to Mount Lafayette and the grinning Govenor Gannon memorial, then across to Franconia. Last year we had stumbled across a delightful bar in Franconia called The Dutch Treat, where the welcome is warm, the drinks are cold and the locals are fascinating. Today's visit we learnt that the only Spanish one old man in dungarees knows is "How much for a kilo?"  

We also found a new store promising gifts, antiques and collectibles which most certainly delivered. I found some amazing salt and pepper pots and an old tobacco tin. The lady who owned it and her friend were AMC guides and volunteered on Mt. Washington. They were wicked impressed with our knowledge of the area and pointed us in the direction of some more places that were a little off the beaten track and definitely off the tourist maps. 

Following their directions, we headed back east through Bethlehem, which is full of Christmas tree farms and wild turkeys, go figure. At Bretton Woods we took the Base Station Road and came to Upper Falls, which wasn't quite as clearly signed as  we'd been told, but you can normally tell by the wear on the side of the road where places worth stopping are. Crazy locals jump off that rock in the foreground on the left into the pool below. 


We headed back through Crawford Notch, another very steep, winding mountain road, passing by Silver Cascades, the Mountain Division of the railroad now only used by the Conway Scenic Railroad Company and Sawyer's Rock. The scenery around here is just awesome. There is no other word for it. 










New Hampshire: Exploring Intervale

Today was forecast as a hot one, and it was, with it reading 36 degrees after lunch, so we decided to explore the local area a bit more. In the air conditioned car. There were a few things we wanted to try and find and a few places we'd meant to go and hadn't. 


The house where we stay is in Intervale, which straddles the towns of Conway and Bartlett at the foot of Bartlett Mountain, a subpeak of Kearsarge North, which until 1957 was called Pequawket Mountain for the Abenaki people who descended from the region. On local maps Town Hall Road dead ends at Mountain Pond but on Google maps it heads straight across the mountain. Intrigued we headed up. 


The first stop we found was Flat Rocks, an area of the river and surrounding woodland that has been given over for public use but is clearly only known to locals. A steep scramble from the road brings you to a shallow, flat section of the river, perfect for paddling and sunbathing. 


As we continued further it became apparent that the way to dispose of old cars was to abandon them in the woods. We spotted several at varying distances into the trees, some completely rusted out and a massive old Chrysler stuck at the side of the road. It was quite bizarre. 


The road turned into an unpaved one car track as it hit the Jackson town line and as soon as we saw the White Mountains National Forest sign the road ended abruptly. There is a beautiful lake further up there, Mountain Pond, but it's hard to tell how far it is or if it is accessible as the road was so badly damaged by Tropical Storm Irene in 2011 that it's been closed since and not estimated to reopen until at least next year. 

While researching the history of the area, I'd come across mention of an Abenaki totem behind the old Intervale railroad station. The station hasn't been used since 1958 so trying to find the exact location was proving slightly troublesome. While the actual building no longer appears to be there (or may be in someone's backyard), we did find the sign and right across the tracks is the Abenaki Indian Shop and Camp, run by Cheif Laurent until his death in 1917 and subsequently his son Stephen. The totem is no longer there but the standing is, which I managed to identify by the marking in the footing and the cross referencing the National Register of Historic Places Registration Form http://pdfhost.focus.nps.gov/docs/NRHP/Text/91000218.pdf

While it was disappointing that the totem no longer stood, finding the camp itself was still pretty cool. The history of the Abenaki people in this area is fascinating and incredibly sad. Smallpox, war and eugenics decimated the Abenaki population and many fled to Quebec making the case for US federal recognition difficult. 

New Hampshire: Antiquing in Meredith

I love old stuff. Specifically old American stuff. If I lived here my house would be full of old stuff. Old chairs, old dressers, old tables, but unfortunately I don't think I'd get them home to England, so I have to make do with stuff that will fit in my suitcase. Today was distinctly cloudy, so a great day for antiquing. 



Meredith, a town on the shores of Lake Winepeesaukee, is a treasure trove of antique shops, or old tat shops as my uncle would call them. Here you can find everything from old skeleton keys to baseball cards; from full tins of snuff to snowshoes; from shoemaking moulds to windchimes made from old silverware. I am in heaven. I managed to find a 1920 license plate that will look awesome in my kitchen as well as various other bits of wonderful old tat. 

Besides antique stores there is also a brilliant thrift store in Meredith where last year I bought an implement for 50c that turned out to be a meatballer. This year I got a baster, an ice cream scoop, a photo frame, a magnet, two books and a plastic Viking helmet (don't ask) all for the princely sum of $2.50. 


On the way back we stopped off at several other antique and thrift stores, picking up some fabulous pieces at each including some more classic American signage to go in the kitchen from a totally adorable and incredibly eccentric lady in Tamworth. It was somewhat of a shock when she said "We got problems, you know. When they executed that poor boy. It sends shivers down my spine. It's not right". I didn't expect to be discussing Ferguson today, but I guess it shows what an important story it is that white store owners in rural NH are even discussing it with English tourists. 


As we were passing, we couldn't resist stopping off at our favourite lake, Chocorua Lake, for a short time. To say it is beautiful doesn't even begin to do it justice. 



New Hampshire: Exploring

Last year we made a decision that this year we would explore a bit more. Some of our best experiences and stories came from stumbling across places only the locals know about and stopping off in small towns off the beaten track, so today we headed out with the map and a rough idea of a direction. 



First stop was Glen Ellis Falls, a spectacular 64ft waterfall originating on Mt. Washington and flowing down to meet the Saco somewhere around Glen. It was breathtaking. The sheer force of the crystal clear water cascading over the rocks was awesome. I tend to use awesome a lot to describe things around here because they really are. 


After climbing back up from the base of the falls, we continued north on Route 16 and stopped at Wildcat to get a drink and take some shots of the magnificent views of Mt. Washington to the east and Wildcat to the west. It was so lovely we decided to take the short hike loop at the base of the mountain and head up to Thompson Falls. The Way of the Wildcat loop is a delightful hike through the woods with markers telling the history and stories of the area including stories of the Abenaki people and the establishment of the reservation area of the White Mountains National Forest. 

The hike off the trail to the falls certainly seemed much further than the half mile it was stated to be, but it was worth it when we arrived. Thompson Falls were a hidden gem up until 2011 - when the Thompson Falls Trail became an official trail of the White Mountain National Forest - the falls had largely remained a mystery. Apart from an appearance on the 1942 USGS North Conway quadrangle and a brief mention in an AMC White Mountain Guide dating to the 1950's. It is still a very secluded, very pretty, picturesque cascade of water over a clam shaped ledge without the heavy foot traffic associated with other falls in the area, in fact we were entirely alone. 


After a somewhat strenuous morning of hiking, we headed north again in search of sustenance. We stopped in Gorham as there appeared to be a plethora of eateries, however as we walked down Main St it looked more and more deserted. Everywhere was closed. I'm not sure if Gorham comes alive in the evening, but it definitely sleeps during the day. After grabbing a Burger King (teenage boys turn into monsters if left hungry for too long), we headed west and back down the other side of Mt. Washington through Crawford Notch, where the scenery is just as impressive. 

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